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April 16, 2023


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Leslie Pettite

My Husband was diagnosed with Dementia when he was 62 years old 2 years ago. The Donepezil did very little to help him. The medical team did even less. His decline was rapid and devastating. It was Memory loss at first, then hallucination. Last year, a family friend told us about Natural Herbs Centre and their successful Dementia Ayurveda TREATMENT, we visited their website naturalherbscentre. com and ordered their Dementia Ayurveda protocol, i am happy to report the treatment effectively treated and reversed his Dementia disease, most of his symptoms stopped, he’s now able to comprehend what is seen, sleep well and exercise regularly.he’s  active now, I can personally vouch for  these remedy but you would probably need to decide what works best for you 💜.


Blessings to you Lucy and to your family. My heart is heavy with the journey you are on. I too am so very sorry that you are dealing with this illness. Dementia just sucks the life and energy out of everyone involved. You are handling this journey with such grace.

I admire you so much and always look forward to your posts and pictures no matter the topic.

Take care and greetings from Canada.

Kate White

Dear Lucy, Thank you for being open and vulnerable and sharing your dementia journey. I have had a similar journey with my father over the last five years. He deteriorated rapidly with vascular dementia and we had to put him into aged care quite quickly. I think like your father it had been coming on for a while but he was not willing to face it. He always said that he wanted to stay at home but due to stairs and him becoming less mobile, as well as not being able to look after himself we had to make that decision. My father was an intelligent man with a PhD in Science and a builder of miniature steam locomotives, so it is very hard to see him now as he spends most of his time in a wheelchair (unable to walk) and doesn't talk much. Sometimes he confuses me with my mum (who passed away 13 years ago) or his sister (who passed away 10 years ago) (both of whom I resemble, even more so as I get older) but I just enjoy being able to spend some short moments with him when I can. It is a terrible disease, but I hope you can do like I do and spend some good times with him, cherish each moment you have left with your dad as best you can, and remember all the good times.

Sharon leak

Hi Lucy, I’m on the same dementia journey with my dad and I feel every word you wrote. I live near settle so if you ever need a hug or walk & talk just let me know. There are no words that can describe the rollercoaster of emotions associated with this disease but knowing there are others on the same journey is a comfort in itself. Much love, Sharon


Oh Lucy, my heart breaks with you. Dementia is so cruel, taking away someone you love bit by bit. The priority is the safety and well-being of your Dad, and he does seem happy with his arrangement at the moment.
As you say, tough decisions will need to be faced at some point, which is never easy, compounded by guilt and worry.
We noticed things a bit awry with my mum during lockdown, and eventually got her assessed (I too lived a few hours drive away from her, making things doubly difficult). Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia, and very quickly declined - within 6 months of diagnosis she was no longer able to dress herself, carry out tasks like preparing food or drinks, it even got to the point where she couldn’t speak on the telephone. At that point we installed an Alexa that we could connect to and remotely Drop in, so we could see her in her front room, and talk to her if she wanted to. It was a heartbreaking journey, and to cut a traumatic story short, after the unavailability of enough career visits, multiple falls and trauma we had to move her into a care home. As she had sadly lost most local friends and was no longer aware of the familiar area she lived in, we chose to bring her to a care home near where we live. She wasn’t aware where she was, so I thought the benefit of being able to see her weekly, rather than 3 times a year or so, was the best. I hated doing it, but in fact the first 6 months were great, she thought she was on a cruise! She enjoyed the activities in the home, and joined in happily. Sadly she has worsened to the later stage of vascular dementia, and she can no longer fully enjoy everything, but I am so glad we moved her, as I had 6 months seeing her safe and happy, without worrying!

Catherine Deslandes

Dear Lucy,
Je suis française et je suis l’une de vos fans tout à fait invisible depuis de longues années….. Je comprends très facilement l’anglais en le lisant mais il m’est plus difficile de l’écrire. J’ignore si vous comprendrez le moindre mot de ceci, mais je tenais à vous témoigner ma compassion et mon amitié. J’ai lu avec grande attention ce très beau texte, relatant votre histoire et la tristesse de voir votre papa glisser progressivement dans cette terrible maladie…. Vous m’avez bouleversée et ramener dans des lieux que j’ai visités lorsque j’avais 10 ans lors de nos « vacances en Angleterre » avec mes parents en 1977…..
Je n’ai rien oublié….. le goût des biscuits à la cannelle, du thé au lait, la Lumière, les sourires, la gentillesse de Mrs Pilinger chez qui nous logions en B&B ….. Merci de m’avoir permis de revisiter au travers de vos mots ce délicieux endroit et merci pour la confiance que vous témoignez à chacune de nous qui vous avons lue ! 🙏🏼❤️☀️😘🌊🌍🕊🐞

Debra A Price Agrums Sposa

Dearest Lucy, both my mom and Aunt lived with Dementia for 10 years and it was devastating. All the symptoms you talk about are real and so very difficult to deal with. I saw a program on the T.V. that showed when you put on earphones on them that play their favorite tunes from their teen years that it helps them remember many things. I saw this after both my mom and auntie passed, but I've seen so many articles on it since that it seems like it really works. Good luck to you, it's one of the hardest things you will ever go thru.


I think many of us know someone with dementia…or the start of it. It has been very helpful to read your post..It will inform my discussions (without referring to you of course) with those I know who are coping with family and friends who are experiencing this disease. Xxx

Diane L

Hi Lucy

I’ve been there. It’s hard. ‘Contented Dementia’ is a good book which helps with many things including the verbal ‘ping-pong’ as things change.
As I’m sure you know, it’s important not to correct him, but ‘go’ with him where he is.
It’s all very well the GP talking about ‘free will’, but if your dad’s illness means that he has difficulty reasoning through things, then he needs to look at his capacity to make decisions etc. No, you can’t force your dad to be seen at a memory clinic, but there are ways and means. There’s over a hundred forms of dementia, though the most common are Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia.

I’ve lived it, plus also worked with it professionally, so happy to help if I can.
Good luck. I hate the dementia thief with a passion.


Dear Lucy, my mum is like your dad, but when I talk whith her I try to correct her so to bring her to the reality... I understand you deeeply in my heart. Lisa from Italy

Silke Wittke

Sehr bewegend!!
Du bist richtig!
Spiele die Rolle,die er dir gibt und verbessere ihn nicht,sonst merkt er,dass er falsch ist und das schürrt Ängste.
Und wir haben auch viel gemeinsam gelacht,wenn auch manchmal unter Tränen.

Liebe Grüße aus Deutschland :)


PS Has anyone mentioned getting Power of Attorney? That will certainly make life easier for you all at some point. You don't need a solicitor (I did the forms for my Mom), the forms are long, but take it step by step and you'll be fine. Also, if your Dad doesn't already get attendance allowance, he would be eligible at least for the lower rate, and probably the higher. Those forms are a faff, and long - but well worth doing. Your Dad will probably get the allowance, and then Lady B could apply for carer's allowance. the forms for that are much shorter! Cx


Dear Lucy, I echo all the comments about your love and care for your dad. I know how exhausting this is. My one further comment is that you may need to find a home for him at some point in the future and the time to start looking into that is now. As you say, you see deterioration every time you visit. The last thing you need is a crisis and no idea where to start. Some good places have waiting lists. I know it is the last thing you want to think about but it will make your dad’s, Lady B’s and your lives easier when (if) the time comes. Much love xxx

Helen Sheward

It sounds like he has Lewy Body Dementia. I would echo another comment I saw re arranging Power of Attorney ASAP, it is much easier and cheaper to do it while you can (while he still has capacity to do it) - as you can only do it while he has capacity, otherwise it is a costly and lengthy process at Court of Protection xx


My mum had Lewis Bodies dementia and eventually lost her speech and facial expressions. It was difficult to watch her deteriorate.
Somethings that might help - make a memory book and/or box with photos and items from the past that might be in the back of draws/shed/wardrobe.
Another thing i found that was incredible calming was a twiddle muff. I knitted s colourful one for my mum with lots of fiddley things (more the better). They are always finding something new.
May I also suggest getting a power of attorney as soon as you can with Lady B
Best wishes Carolx

jill smith

so glad you can spend with your Dad, that disease is very hard for the members of the family. Just had a dear friend pass away after 5 years suffering from this. I know how hard it is, you are doing anything you can, take care.x x


Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us Lucy. My mom does not have dementia but has other health issues and needs our help. It's a strange feeling to switch roles and to take care of our parents. Hugs to you and thank you for sharing.


Hey Lucy, so many of your thoughts and comments reflect the journey we had with my Dad. He too, had ‘things’ happening to him overnight and it was so very real for him. You are doing a fine job making plans and offering respite. There is no more required.
Thanks for your chats😊


Bless you Lucy, I know just how hard this is. Sending love and hugs x

Rita King

We went through a similar experience with my Grandfather. It still makes me sad thinking about it. I’m so very sorry that you have to deal with this as well. Time stops, things get put off, it’s as if life is shuffling at an agonizing slow pace. Than the next moment happens to fast and you will get blindsided. It’s ok to let go of what was and greave now. It’s ok to let yourself be that stranger to him. It’s ok to be angry, and wonder why? Try not to compare now to than. Find your new footing in between visits. You might try to find an adult day care to help. To give you and lady B. Time during the day to gather your strength. Day in and day out of caring for someone with this hateful condition will cause burnout. I will be praying for you and your family. Thank you talking about this, it is a hard thing to do, but you are much loved and we are your friends. God Bless you.


Lucy your story is one of compassion, love and patience.
Dementia is a disease that robs us of the people we know and love. Stay strong. Hope you have support from others not just Lady B. I cannot crochet but enjoy looking at your patterns. I knit, well, I used to but thankfully getting back to it again. Slainte (Irish for Good Health)

Ellen D.

You are doing all the right things when you are with your Dad. Dementia is not easy but just keep loving him and he will feel that love and you will too.




Really beautiful post xx


Sounds like he still really loves his daughter Lucy up in Skipton x

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