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June 12, 2017

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Michelle Forbes

Dear Lucy I am so very very sorryfor your loss. My heart really does go out to you. My Mum died Fifteen years ago, and there still isn't a day goes by that I dont think about her. For those of us fortunate enough to have had a close and loving relationship with a parent their loss is a life changing experience, but then why wouldn't it be? Take some comfort in the fact you were able to be with her, and be there for her.
Grief as we all know is the pits. There is no quick fix. Everyone experiences it differently. But be assured you will come out on the other side of this, after all your Mum has taught you all the life skills necessary for you to do so. She is still teaching you now. In your more positive moments (difficult at this time I know),try to remember the tremendous pleasure you bring to so many of us, and know we are all thinking about you and wishing you
all that is good, at this very sad and difficult time in your life. Michelle


Gill

I haven't commented for some time but felt I should given your recent circumstances.

As most people have said, grief is a personal process and everyone is different. After my Dad died (August 2011)I felt as though my anchor had gone and I was adrift, I still had my bloke, son, stepdaughter, etc, etc but the one person who had tethered me throughout my life had gone and I was bereft. Life has moved on and changed in so many ways - mainly for the good, but I can't help feeling a twinge of sadness when something wonderful happens and he's not here to share it. But I 'hear' him everyday in the little things that happen, and that's a great comfort. The only advice I would give is, go with the flow and allow the process to happen.

Many blessings at this stage of your journey.
Love and stuff XXXX

Lisa Smith

Grief is a funny old thing. It takes on different shapes and forms in everyone and there is no right or wrong way to do it.Be kind to yourself, don't be afraid to ask for help and grieve as you need to grieve.
Sending lots of hugs and love your way xxx

Arlene

I already commented once but I have been thinking about you lots Lucy. Hope you are well and finding your way though all of this. Lose is never easy... love and hugs from Canada.

Linne

Dear Lucy, you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers since I read your previous post. I know quite well this part of the journey, as my Mum died a year ago in April after spending most of September to April in hospital, with my RN sister and myself providing most of her care. By the end of September I'd moved, visited my sons and friends on the coast (I hadn't been home for nearly 8 years) and then gone to stay with friends in the States.

Your situation is different, as your family is still young, but you will find your own ways of dealing with this challenge. In general, I found it helpful to rest as much as possible, distract myself at times (less as time went on) and slowly resume my usual creative occupations.

Over a year later, I am still aware at times of a huge hole in my heart; it helps me to remember the things we shared and loved. The numbness is still there some of the time, but more manageable. I'm older than you are, and on my own, so some things are different for me. I found it helpful to make a resolution to make the most of each day and to do my best to be creative in some way as often as possible.

This time will change for you and become easier. Don't expect to follow a timetable; we each heal and cope in our own ways.

I'm glad you are back posting. Your blanket patterns continue to be very helpful to my friend in the States; she is working on three different blankets and finds it calming and centring to crochet when she is anxious.

Much love to you, Lucy. I think of you every day with gratitude. ~ Linne

Laura Gabriela Martin Del Campo Sescosse

Thanks for wrirring

Jennifer Marsden

So glad to see a post from you. To know you are getting along okay. Grudging takes as much time as it takes. Different for everyone. I was so sorry to have missed you when I visited Skipton on May 3rd. The ladies at Coopers were lovely and did expect you back anytime soon but after our brunch you still weren't back so unfortunately we had to continue on our travels. I would have loved to have seen your studio. We are coming to England again in June next year so I may be able to try again. Would be good if there was a way to make an appointment. Weather in .Australia is cooling off so I can get back to crocheting in earnest.

Pamela Tomkins

Hi Lucy, I have the same problem re nails and never thought of them as part of my beauty regime because of that, but I have been taking Collagen tablets in a effort to stave of going old (not working) but it has transformed my nails!!! They are noticeably harder and are growing well. It might do the trick for you! Loving your blog as per!

Alison

I'm so glad you're back, I was pondering and wondering how you were getting on. Remember to be kind to yourself. Get yourself a bottle of Rimmel Nail Nirse rescue, it's wonder stuff. About £4.50 on Amazon.
Take your time with everything, your body has had a terrible shock as well as your emotional self.

Kay Greenwood

Nice to see your post on the blog Lucy.You take care of yourself hun.You can't put a time frame on grief it affects everyone differently.It will get easier with time.Sending love good wishes and virtual hugs your way. xx

Pat

Lucy, in regard to the splitting nails that are also soft and thin.
I have the same problem.
Always trim with a nail cutter any tears, splits or breaks. Then you should file.
Filing only puts too much stress on your weak nails. So it is only done at the end of the repair job.
I am a 'mad' researcher and I spent a few bit of time trying to find the answers to why and how to treat, etc.
Also massage your nails at the base, ie where the nail comes out of the skin to promote a stronger growth.
You can use expensive creams or just your naked finger - it doesn't matter as the massage is what does the trick.
Love your puddy tat antics.
I have 2 cats and they love to 'help' me with my crocheting. This morning I emptied a zip lock bag of some balls of wool ready for my next project. The cat that belongs to my husband dove into the plastic bag. It was so cute, but dangerous for her. She came out as soon as I told he not to play in it. Phew!
I try not to pull my yarn from the ball in such a way that they want to hunt it. I know I am being a bit too too.... when the eyes light up. Then I gently pull the yarn so as not to excite them. Or I go and find their shoe string toy and we have a game of chasey. (spellcheck doesn't like that word!)

Fiona

AW Lucy, drift as long as you need to. It is 26 years since my Mum flew away to be an angel and it would have been her birthday today. I still feel sad sometimes that I can no longer share time with her, but life does go on and you learn to adjust. Thank you so much for sharing all that you do on your blog. sending you hugs.xx

Julia

Hi Lucy, I lost my Dad to suicide 19 years ago. I must say that the shock of the loss has subsided, but the pain and turmoil that has surrounded my family since then is still just as raw. Crochet has brought great peace and comfort to me over the last 5 years, especially, though I learned how to wield a hook over 40 years ago. I love the Granny Stripe! I made it for my own mother 2 summers ago, used Caron Sinply soft in a blue, green, and sand color. She loves it. It was my first introduction to your patterns, and I have since made several, and am in love with Special DK yarn, the way Wool Warehouse packages and sends it from the UK to little ol' me in southeast Georgia, USA, makes me feel very pampered and fortunate to be able to enjoy such a craft. Keep your chin up. You are important and vital to the fiber arts community 😊

touteclaire

Coucou Lucy, nice to meat you again on our blog.
take care

Arlene

Welcome back to blogland Lucy. You have clearly been missed from all the lovely comments I read on here.

Looking forward to your new blanket project... and love the socks. I wish I could knit but I just don't make the time to learn. My own fault.

Take care now ~ Arlene

Charlotte.

Lucy, great yarn for the manly socks. Please know that everyone grieves in a different way and at their own pace. Personally found that children and husbands don;t always understand this. My thoughts are with you. A Summer blanket sounds good. The colors are yummy.

Shelly ~ 78thStitch

Sending you love and hugs and warm wishes, along with lots of colour and comfort. Take as long as you need, Lucy - we'll be here when you're ready to return xx

Lib

I lost my Dad in April and the hazy days continue not in mass like they once were. Priorities have been made clearer. The piles of laundry are growing but I am finding myself listening to birds or getting lost in clouds more often.

Pamela Soper

Dear Lucy, Have you read the Knitting Circle? A lovely, gentle read that I think might speak to you just right now.
I would be happy to send you mine if you don't mind sending me your address.
(pamela.soper@btinternet.com)
Sincere best wishes
Pamela

Larissa

Hey lovely - this grieving is a strange process (my dad died 2 years ago) there is no right or wrong way, it just is what it is. The biggest thing I've had to learn is getting used to a new life without that person and how does that look/feel for me, because my life is forever changed and that's weird, but it's still good :) I think I thought if and when the grief ends, life will go back to how it was, but it hasn't and will always be different. I'm getting used to it now, but I still miss the old codger and think about him every day. Best wishes to you x And thanks for sharing your vulnerability - I'll bet it's helping lots of people x Hope that made a tiny bit of sense!

Mary Pobedinsky

Dearest Lucy, Seeing your wonderful photos and colors has helped me through some very tough times. When my Dad died, I was 30, and a cousin sent me a calligraphy note:
"People we love and lose are no longer where they were before. Now they are wherever you are."
God bless you for all you do for us--thank you for the colors and the images and the sweet thoughts of home.
All is well, and all will be well....
--Mary P

Barb

Oh, honey, you are still grieving, and it will take time. You will feel you're in a funny funk for a while, and that it will never be normal again. But normal will return, you will learn to cope with that empty space in your life that your mother's death left. Crochet and knitting can be very therapeutic, I think and having a new summery blanket to work on might be just the thing to help you through. Will be thinking and praying for you from here across the pond!❤

Rowena Corlett

Good to hear from you Lucy. Do take care of yourself. Sending lots of love xxxxx

Susan Smith

A late comment from Oz due to no internet access whilst away. Take your time & drift for the reason that it is all part of the healing process. So glad that your camera wasn't on the way out, as we'd miss so many of your pics. Breathe, smell the flowers, relax & enjoy your family & friends around you. Look forward to seeing that bundle of yarn become something in, your own time. Take care & huggles.

Rachael

Do you think Kelly Green would work instead of Meadow and citron for the yellow? Or are they too deep/light/bright/something?

Also, be gentle on yourself. Grieving takes time and can catch you unawares. Accept your responsibilities, but take some time with your happy colours and outside in the fresh air for healing.

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