Before I begin my witterings today, can I just quickly say a huge big thank you to each and every one of you who took the trouble to comment on my Routine post. Your words of support, encouragement, wisdom and empathy made a huge impact, you buoyed me up and made me feel that I am doing pretty OK in the big scheme of things. And that most importantly you understand where I'm coming from.
I have to tell you I am on such a roll with stuff this week, everything feels marvelously tickety-boo in the Attic. Yippee for tickety-boo-ness!!!! I've been feeling very inspired to make some changes to the way things bob along round here, I think you could say that I've experienced a little teeny-tiny, itsy-bitsy sort of an Epiphany. I don't want to scare you, but I confess that this week I've actually been having FUN doing the housework, holy cr*p it's honestly true!!
In brief, this is what I've done.............
- made a schedule and written it down in a (newly purchased) diary (a Good Thing)
- actually kept to the schedule (a VERY Good Thing)
- tackled just a small, specific area of a room each day (1 hr max)
- eliminated the words work, jobs, chores from my mind (a Positive Thing)
- replaced the above words with love, happiness, gratitude (a VERY Positive Thing)
Do you see the shift in attitude?? Do you see me refusing to Tackle Chores and choosing instead to Love my Home? Does it seem good?? Happy?? Positive?? An Attitude of Gratitude?? Yessss!!!!
The other BIG mental shift I've had is to do with balancing out that one hour a day home-lovin' time with my other responsibilities, namely childcare. So rather than trying to contain/entertain Little B in order for me to go off and Do My Jobs (which never worked out), I've simply decided to involve him instead. Let him help me, make it a fun time for us both.
This week, in accordance with the FlyLady Zones we've been in the bathroom and also his bedroom. We've cleaned the bathroom together (it was already tidy), he is a whizz with a cloth. That boy love love lOVEs to Swish n Swipe, see him go!!!! His little hands are a blurrrrrr!!!
The job in my diary for yesterday was to tackle the mountainous mess of toys that had accumulated downstairs. I delegated the Tipping Out of The Basket job to Little B and he took on the task with great pleasure. I pulled out all toys/objects that weren't supposed to be there, packed away the outgrown toys and threw out all the broken toys and misc. rubbish. Then Little B re-packed his own toy basket. We went on to have a similar sort out of toys and clothes in his bedroom.
I've found the best time for s spot of home-loving is between 2 and 3pm, it's that lull after lunch/nap time and before the school run. It means that I have a definite ending point to the task in hand cos at 3pm I have to be out the door and on my way to school, no matter what. Having that time limit imposed on the proceedings makes all the difference, it really does. It's only One Hour. I can do one hour, it's not so hard. So far it's working a treat, and I couldn't be happier.
With all this feel-good happening in the house, I've been re-appreciating all that I have and re-confirming the things that I love about my home. Pottering around in my humble little kitchen, snipping stems from my market dahlias....
....arranging them in my delicious rainbow jug and experiencing that familiar rush of joy. My home will hopefully always be full of love, colour and creativity.
I baked buns yesterday too, can't quite remember what time of day it was, after lunch I think.
Yes, that's right I remember now...it was after lunch when Little B was fast asleep on the sofa. I had the radio on and enjoyed the warmth from the oven (it was cold and wet here yesterday).
I decided to save the bowl for Little B so that he could lick out the bun mixture when he woke up. He couldn't honestly believe his luck (this was a first time experience for him), it was soooo sweet watching him. He used his finger for the first few licks with lots of smiles and mmmmmmmmmm noises. Then both hands went in and his whole face became one big, happy, sticky mess with a wide grin running across it.
So that's about where I'm at.......I think I might possibly have some more to say about this whole subject of Gratitude, about being thankful for what one has, about keeping house, about balancing time and creating routines. About learning to love all aspects of home-making, not just the juicy yarn infested bits or the scrummy baking bits or the delicious baby bits or the sweet little prettifying bits.
But do you know what? Right now I'm finding my brain is too tired to write and my bed is a calling. So I shall love you and leave you for now, but may come back to the end of this paragraph to add on a thoughtful Extra Bit tomorrow. Thanks for reading, hope my words aren't too waffly. xxxxxxxxxxxx ((mwah)) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Edit to add ::
A few extra things to mention.............
1. Just to reassure you here, I'm not aiming for an immaculate home, nor a show home, nor a magazine-shoot home. I'm aiming for a slightly more orderly version of what I've already created. I love the lived-in look, I love having many, many objects around the place. But I'm also a little tired of the the tedium surrounding the searching-for-objects-that-are-in-the-piles-somewhere, and the huge piles constantly falling over and needing restacking/balancing.
2. I'm using the Flylady's regime as a gentle starting point only, taking from it the elements that work for me rather than embracing it in it's entirety. I've not signed up to the email reminders as I know this would irritate the hell out of me. I'm also not into making Control Journals, nor taking on the (frankly quite scary) deep cleaning tasks. I also like to wear my worn out old crocs about the place so will not be lacing any shoes.
3. I've been delving a little into this book which you can sneaky-peek into on Amazon....the writing is inspiring and oh-so-true! I particularly LOVE the list on page 6 (go read!!), it made me laugh out loud and nod vigorously! I came to discover this book via Ali's beautifully written post on this very same subject, thank you Ali xx.